when you're right, you're right
Thank you to those of you who shared your thoughts with me. I have received similar advice before from those of you who said not to send an Email. Unfortunately, it's easier for me to express myself with written words instead of in person especially with a father who never lets me get a word in edgewise and always shoots down everything I say. He really has quite the talent for twisting my words!
I will go on my trip and I will deal. And if worse comes to worse and my sister is just making it too miserable for me to handle it, I will leave early. I will do my best to bite my tongue while not biting it completely off but I can't promise you that I won't come back with new scars!
If we get into the thick of things while I'm there, then we'll do just that, it will all be out in the open and then if I have the opportunity, I will throw my sister over the balcony. Pretend you didn't read that. Ya' know, just in case the FBI come knocking on your doors asking questions. In fact, just pretend like you've never even heard of me or my blog. Well most of you don't even know my real name so that should come easy for you!
And if things get really bad, then I will inform them that we will never return again. Let's all keep our fingers crossed for that one!
Thank you to those of you who wrote me private messages on here and personal Emails voicing your opinions. One person asked me if I was dependent on my parents because of money, inheritance, etc.. My parents help me out financially but truthfully, the few thousand I receive from them/year doesn't significantly impact my bank account and if I had to do without, it wouldn't make much of a difference. Yes, there are some trust funds but if it came down to it, I would tell my parents to keep it. Years ago, after I was done telling my father to fuck off during an argument, I told him to take me out of his will. Chances are, when he was done seeing red, he chose not to but I would feel relieved if he did. With my parents, everything they've always given me has come with strings attached. For once, I'd like to be out from under their thumbs even if there was a price to pay for it.
If the shit went happens to go down next week which results in my breaking ties with all of them, I would be all the happier for it. I already know that heated discussions will ensue soon into our visit when my parents realize (probably after my sister throws one of her infamous tantrums) that I'm no longer speaking to my sister and I'm sure they'll try relentlessly to get me back to talking to her. Certainly, if that continues for most of the trip I will notify them that we will no longer be coming back because that's not what a vacation is supposed to be about.
Vacation, what a joke! My kids probably hate being there more than me just because it's boring for them and they can't stand the strict rules they have to follow. The only good thing about this particular trip, is that we're staying in a rented suite in their condo because of plumbing issues that have caused my parents to have to use the guest bedroom for themselves. That means, the kids and I will be kicked out early because my sister has to go to sleep by 7 (not for her beauty sleep because no amount of sleep will ever help with her looks) and we can go out and do stuff without my family ever knowing! Yeefuckinghaw for that!
Having a good weekend when I'm not thinking about them which, thankfully, isn't often!
I will go on my trip and I will deal. And if worse comes to worse and my sister is just making it too miserable for me to handle it, I will leave early. I will do my best to bite my tongue while not biting it completely off but I can't promise you that I won't come back with new scars!
If we get into the thick of things while I'm there, then we'll do just that, it will all be out in the open and then if I have the opportunity, I will throw my sister over the balcony. Pretend you didn't read that. Ya' know, just in case the FBI come knocking on your doors asking questions. In fact, just pretend like you've never even heard of me or my blog. Well most of you don't even know my real name so that should come easy for you!
And if things get really bad, then I will inform them that we will never return again. Let's all keep our fingers crossed for that one!
Thank you to those of you who wrote me private messages on here and personal Emails voicing your opinions. One person asked me if I was dependent on my parents because of money, inheritance, etc.. My parents help me out financially but truthfully, the few thousand I receive from them/year doesn't significantly impact my bank account and if I had to do without, it wouldn't make much of a difference. Yes, there are some trust funds but if it came down to it, I would tell my parents to keep it. Years ago, after I was done telling my father to fuck off during an argument, I told him to take me out of his will. Chances are, when he was done seeing red, he chose not to but I would feel relieved if he did. With my parents, everything they've always given me has come with strings attached. For once, I'd like to be out from under their thumbs even if there was a price to pay for it.
If the shit went happens to go down next week which results in my breaking ties with all of them, I would be all the happier for it. I already know that heated discussions will ensue soon into our visit when my parents realize (probably after my sister throws one of her infamous tantrums) that I'm no longer speaking to my sister and I'm sure they'll try relentlessly to get me back to talking to her. Certainly, if that continues for most of the trip I will notify them that we will no longer be coming back because that's not what a vacation is supposed to be about.
Vacation, what a joke! My kids probably hate being there more than me just because it's boring for them and they can't stand the strict rules they have to follow. The only good thing about this particular trip, is that we're staying in a rented suite in their condo because of plumbing issues that have caused my parents to have to use the guest bedroom for themselves. That means, the kids and I will be kicked out early because my sister has to go to sleep by 7 (not for her beauty sleep because no amount of sleep will ever help with her looks) and we can go out and do stuff without my family ever knowing! Yeefuckinghaw for that!
Having a good weekend when I'm not thinking about them which, thankfully, isn't often!
Labels: family, the sucky people
posted by Michelle Flaherty at
10:48 PM
6 Comments:
I hope your trip goes much better than you expect it to, and that your holidays are safe and happy.
We need to find a horse tranquilizer that will knock Sis out for a week. LOL
Damn, I'll be thinking of you!
Here's what I think, it's kind of evil, but hey, all bets are off when it comes to family. I think you should go with a completely different attitude. I think you should be carefree and not let your sister get to you. I think when she starts in on you, that you should just smirk and let her get all irritated. Let whatever she says just roll off your back. I think you should line up a support network that you can call or text afterward. But I think you should just act like she can't get to you no matter what she does. Make her be the one that goes crazy like a screaming lunatic.
Anyway, I know, much easier said than done. But good luck!!
A question: is that a thirty-story balcony? If you drop your sister off a second floor it won't do much damage, except to the pavement.
And if you have to go to prison, I'll send you some cookies.
Have a safe trip, Gertie, and I wish you good tidings.
I will be sending out negative karma at your sister all through the holidays. Maybe it will distract her enough that she won't be evil. Perhaps if we ALL send her negative karma it will do the trick. Nothing says Happy Holidays like negative karma. Good luck!
Well, you could take total control over the amount of time you choose to spend getting poisoned by your sister's bullshit and your parents' side-taking.
Seriously--get a room for you and the kids, close enough to the condo your parents live in to make the drive as short as you can.
When you first get there, check into the hotel--then call the parentals and say, "I'm at the hotel (if you don't want them toknow which one tell them it's one a friend comped you for the weekend at)--need a shower and etc type BS and will be there in about an hour and a half--oh, no, no need to come here since I'll be there in such a short time. Byeeeee!"
If they ask why, tell them you're tired of being booted out of a room so someone can go to sleep long before your kids' bedtime. Then when the evening's over tell them you'll be back at X am or whenever the next round begins.
This way YOU control the time spent together and you also have your own territory to move the kids to before the fights start. Put the limits on the bullshit in your own hands and when you feel like the overload is about to start, head for the bunker and enjoy your break from them, until you're ready for another round.
This probably won't work with your parents--but it might and better yet, it'll work for you. No over-exposure to bullshit and tantrums and other drama that has no place in a family holiday celebration.
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